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EP260 Why Successful Women Are More Selfish

Eleanor Beaton
Eleanor Beaton
EP260 Why Successful Women Are More Selfish

While society thinks that being selfish is something negative, there are advantages – especially when it comes to your professional life. This “selfishness” does not mean you should neglect your responsibilities and valuable relationships. It simply means giving yourself time to focus on your priorities so you can have the energy to make progress on the things that are essential to you and your career.

Today, I’m sharing why successful women are more selfish when it comes to their priorities and why you should learn to embrace episodic selfishness — an essential tool that allows you to drive your career forward while keeping your sanity. I’m also sharing why women struggle to be selfish, how being selfish boosts your performance, and some practical ways to be selfish without alienating support and the people that matter.


“Reframe selfishness as focus.”


Today on the Fierce Feminine Leadership Podcast:

  • The fear of being selfish
  • Why you need to allow people to fail
  • Being noble vs. leading to burnout
  • Why women are reluctant to be selfish
  • A look at Anna Fels’ report about how women perceive ambition
  • When a woman’s goals become acceptable
  • How athletes become “selfish” with their time to achieve their full potential
  • The mindset that will prevent you from making an impact
  • How your focus is under siege
  • What episodic selfishness is
  • How long moments of episodic selfishness should be
  • What women need to unlearn about setting boundaries


How to Focus Your Priorities:

  1. Lay down boundaries.
  2. Focus on the things that are important to you.


Resources Mentioned:

  • Episode 259: Why Your Fear of Overwork is Killing Your Ambition
  • Do Women Lack Ambition? A Study by Anna Fels on Harvard Business Review


Fierce Leadership Quotes:

  • “Focus is the core psychological skill of high performance.”
  • “Focusing on what you need to do to accomplish your goal rather than blocking out everything else is fundamental to being productive, organized, and high-performing.”
  • “Your biggest limitation is the belief that you need to be all things to all people.”


One of the Most Important Gifts You Can Give Yourself!

Do you want to learn how to set powerful boundaries so you don’t get burned out and eventually tap out? Give yourself the vital gift to learn how to effectively set boundaries and know why you need to start saying no more than you say yes. Sign up now for my free training webinar called Stop the Coffee Dates: The Boundary-Setting Master Class for Women that’s happening on April 10, 2018.


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