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EP46 Smart Women Drive Me Crazy When They Do This

Eleanor Beaton
Eleanor Beaton
EP46 Smart Women Drive Me Crazy When They Do This

It’s always a good idea to identify potential problems before starting out on something, but it’s not so great if you let them deter you from following through with your plans. Over the last month I’ve had several questions on this topic, all variations on the theme of “If I take this action, will this bad thing happen?” Often they’re valid concerns – but should they stop you doing something that your intuition tells you is a good idea? I don’t think so, and that’s why I decided to make this podcast.

In today’s episode I want to talk about this trend, why it’s holding us back and how we can rise above it. I’m taking inspiration from the words of Mark Twain – “I’ve lived through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.” 


How hypothetical problems hold us back – and why it matters 

  • Your intuition whispers; your fears scream. 
  • The voice of your intuition is worth listening to, but it’s quiet. It speaks quietly and softly, and you have to listen carefully for it.   
  • Your fears, however, are really good at making themselves heard. Unless you make a conscious effort they can easily bulldoze your intuitive voice. 
  • Learn what the fear voice sounds like, so you’ll recognize it when it tries to make you hold back. 
  • Deal with problems that actually exist. 
  • You need to deal with problems that are affecting you, but why be distracted by ones that might occur? 
  • Being prepared is good, but when you start to listen to fears you’re leaning out, not leaning in. 
  • Create the problem, then deal with it. 
  • Often, problems arise when you take a step forwards. If you avoid the problems you’re also avoiding the opportunity. 
  • Create the problem! You can overcome it, and it’s a sign that you’re getting somewhere. 
  • I find that the problems people are worried about are actually good ones to have. You’re worried that you’ll end up with more clients than you can handle? Fantastic! Go for it; if  
  • Real problems are easier to deal with than theoretical ones. 
  • When you’re thinking about a problem you aren’t facing yet, what can you do about it? The only real solution is to avoid taking the steps that might cause it – but what will you be giving up if you do that? 
  • Face the challenge. 
  • Work your way into having some good problems to deal with. Bring on those extra clients or packed schedule. 
  • I’ve never encountered a problem that I couldn’t deal with or find someone to help me with. Notice your fears, but don’t invest in them. 
  • …especially fears of your own greatness!  


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If you want to learn more about how to focus on the problems that matter, send me an email at [email protected]. We’ll send you all the free resources to help you see all the opportunities that are waiting for you, instead of the potential drawbacks that might be. 


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