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How To Stop Looking For Approval (And What To Look For Instead)

Eleanor Beaton

People pleasers — listen up!

I have some advice for you that is critical to your growth — both inside AND outside your business.

When it comes to other people, I’d like to invite you to STOP looking for approval and START looking for THIS instead.

What is “THIS” exactly? I lay it out in detail in this new episode of Power Play.

What strategies do YOU use to curtail your people pleasing habits?


Episode Transcript

If you are a people pleaser you definitely want to listen up to this.

One of the things that I’ve noticed, both this is something that I’ve had to work through and I’ve absolutely seen it in conversations with other women leaders, is this desire sometimes, or this need that we have, to find approval in other people. In clients, in colleagues, in stakeholders.

And my advice for you is: the most important approval you can ever get is your approval of yourself.

When it comes to other people, I want to invite you to stop looking for approval, but start looking for this instead… and what you want to start looking for is clear expectations. So, when you get into a game of trying to seek approval from other people, that’s a dangerous game to get into. You need to make sure that you are living up to your own standards and that you approve of yourself. What’s more important is to make sure that you are setting clear expectations and communicating clear expectations. That is far more important than seeking approval. You want to seek a mutual understanding of expectations.

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