{"id":112,"date":"2018-03-23T21:48:08","date_gmt":"2018-03-23T21:48:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wordpress-555301-2679610.cloudwaysapps.com\/fierce-insights\/fierce-insights-but-do-you-approve-of-yourself\/"},"modified":"2018-03-23T21:48:08","modified_gmt":"2018-03-23T21:48:08","slug":"fierce-insights-but-do-you-approve-of-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/safimedia.co\/fierce-insights\/fierce-insights-but-do-you-approve-of-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"But do YOU approve of yourself?"},"content":{"rendered":"
Last week, someone I respect and admire publicly disagreed with me about something I wrote. <\/span><\/p>\n My inner gladiator high fived myself when I saw her comments because I know that if I can\u2019t be publicly disagreed with from time to time, then I\u2019m likely not articulating a point of view clearly enough.<\/span><\/p>\n But the fearful part of me shrank from her criticism because deep inside me there is and will always be a little girl who doesn\u2019t want anyone to be upset with her.<\/span><\/p>\n Learning to soothe that little girl has been one of the most important leadership skills I have mastered over the last decade. <\/span><\/p>\n Can you relate? <\/span><\/p>\n You voice an opinion, decide on something, make a call, share a point of view and then you second guess yourself, or wallow in the vulnerability that goes hand in hand with bringing your true self to the fore. <\/span><\/p>\n When that little, vulnerable girl who hates displeasing people comes out to play, here\u2019s what I have learned to do.<\/span><\/p>\n I take a deep breath and get very quiet.<\/span><\/p>\n I cup my hands together and picture that little girl sitting cross-legged on my palm.<\/span><\/p>\n I allow myself to physically feel the love I have for that small girl who just so happens to be a part of me.<\/span><\/p>\n And I say to her, \u201cI get it. THEY don\u2019t approve of you. But do YOU approve of yourself?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n