{"id":213,"date":"2019-01-03T19:57:50","date_gmt":"2019-01-03T19:57:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wordpress-555301-2679610.cloudwaysapps.com\/fierce-insights\/fierce-insights-how-to-stop-looking-for-approval-and-what-to-look-for-instead\/"},"modified":"2019-01-03T19:57:50","modified_gmt":"2019-01-03T19:57:50","slug":"fierce-insights-how-to-stop-looking-for-approval-and-what-to-look-for-instead","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/safimedia.co\/fierce-insights\/fierce-insights-how-to-stop-looking-for-approval-and-what-to-look-for-instead\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Stop Looking For Approval (And What To Look For Instead)"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"max-w-screen-xl px-8 mx-auto prose prose-xl prose-img:mt-0 prose-img:mb-0 \" data-block-type=\"\">\n[et_pb_section bb_built=&#8221;1&#8243;][et_pb_row][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243;][et_pb_post_title _builder_version=&#8221;3.16&#8243; title=&#8221;off&#8221; meta=&#8221;off&#8221; featured_image=&#8221;off&#8221; \/][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;3.16&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p>People pleasers &#8212; listen up!<\/p>\n<p>I have some advice for you that is critical to your growth &#8212; both inside AND outside your business.<\/p>\n<p>When it comes to other people, I\u2019d like to invite you to STOP looking for approval and START looking for THIS instead.<\/p>\n<p>What is \u201cTHIS\u201d exactly? 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